Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Things that are not OK on Facebook

There are some things that people do on Facebook that just annoy me(in no particular order):

1. Tagging someone your friend doesn't know in their post.

I hate when people try to tag their own friend on a picture or some other kind of post that I share. If you want someone to see the funny photo I share, please post it to their timeline or share it yourself. My privacy settings are so only my friends can see things I post for a reason. This is NOT okay.

2. Tagging me in comments for no good reason.

I have a facebook friend who has noticed that I "like" a lot of photos of shoes. So now, randomly I get notifications that she has tagged me in comments so I can see pictures of shoes that I guess she thinks I will like. This is not a close friend of mine. This is not someone who would even come close to knowing what I like and do not like. I chalk it up to boredom. It's annoying, especially because most of the things she tags me in are not something I would ever like.

3. Adding me when you don't know me.

I'm all for making new friends but to me this is just strange. I have people who add me and I have NO IDEA who they are. 99.9% of the time I do not accept these friend request. ONCE I did, and that person is now one of my closest friends. However, this is not always the case. Usually it's SPAM or someone trying to creep on you. And if you aren't careful with the information you share on facebook this can be dangerous.

4. Hitting on me.

No. It's just not normal. I do not use my facebook as a way to meet men and do not have any desire to.

5. Arguing with me.

I have a lot of strangers who don't realize that a lot of what I say is a joke. And when talking to people who actually know me, they realize this. Other idiots try to start fights when they don't even know me. I usually just block them. Also, people who argue a point on facebook and try to make their point by copying and pasting wikipedia. I mean, really? Am I supposed to respect your opinion when all you did was google the topic?

6. Commenting on EVERY. SINGLE. THING.

I have blocked people who I am not friends with for this reason. Some people feel the need to "comment" or "like" every single thing their friends post. They don't have anything to say, they are just bored because they have no life.  They are usually "that annoying girl" too.

7. Over "liking."

I have a friend who, if I post a group of photos, will like every single photo in the album, and then like the album. Seems like you could have just saved some time (and notifications to me) by just liking the album. Not to mention, if you like too many things in a day, your "liking privileges" can be revoked. I had this happen when I thought it would be hilarious to like every single one of my friend's pictures for his b-day so he would have hundreds of notifications.

8. Tagging me in photos that are not me.

This isn't that bad, because I know that sometimes Facebook mobile can make this a problem because it is easy to tag someone accidentally (I've done it). However, when you actually do it on purpose, it can be irritating to some people. With my privacy settings, I have to approve anything I am tagged in anyway. However, when a certain sister of mine posts multiple things to tag me in just so I will see them, that's a little annoying. Especially when I don't understand why I'm being tagged.

9. When you send someone a message and you know that they've seen it and they never respond.

Especially when it's a simple question. It's okay if you say no! I can tell you've read the message. Thank you for that feature facebook!

10. When people post spoilers about current TV shows. 

Not everyone is able to sit at home all evening and watch tv. Maybe some people don't even care if they watch a show the second it comes on. With so many people having DVR it's pretty common that people don't watch everything right away. Which makes when people tell you who got kicked off Biggest Loser, or what happened on American Horror Story super annoying. Just because you watched it doesn't mean everyone else has! This used to be an epidemic but I think most of my friends at least have gotten enough backlash back that they have stopped.

11. Posting disgusting pictures.

Seriously I understand that you had a serious injury. But Do I need to see the bloody stump of a finger someone just had cut off in a work accident?  That's just gross and unfair. Because there's no way you can know it's coming up in your feed. I'm not really squeamish and this really bothers me. I don't understand why people think others want to see that.

12. Every single post being your to-do list. 

I'm glad that you have a full day. But really, do I need to know your to-do list every day? I have one friend in particular who always does this. "Today I did laundry, dishes, fed my kids..." WELL I HOPE YOU FED YOUR KIDS! Otherwise I'm calling the authorities! Do you want a metal? Good for you. I also did my dishes, showered, made dinner, went to work... do you want me to tell you all the details of what I worked on at work? No. And I don't care what shampoo you used to wash your child either. I'm glad your child is bathed but I don't really think the whole world needs to know about it.

13. Fishing for compliments/attention.

I know that some people just crave attention. Are you so starved for attention you have to put all your business all over facebook? And I'm not talking venting sometimes (or frequently - because I do that). However, when you are blatantly doing things only for attention it's kind of sad. I think anyone who reads this knows exactly what I mean.

14. Going through a breakup and posting 100000000000 pictures of sayings whether you miss the person or not.... or saying "why can't he just come back..." etc. I can't handle my entire feed being taken up by this. 

Gross. I know a girl who had this man who was abusive towards her and cheated (a LOT). Now all she does is want him back? Dude.. you need counseling not facebook (tough love time).

15. Fake People.

Nothing bothers me more than fake people. In real life and online. I know people who act like their significant other is the best person in the world. Posting things like "my hubby is the best..." and then five minutes later will message me saying how much they can't stand them, or what they did wrong. People who will go out of their way to get onto their spouse's facebook account and write on their own wall saying "I love you so much."  Or people who write on their spouse's wall only so others will see it. I understand some people travel a lot, don't see their spouse and might want to do that once in a while. I also know people who I see do this occasionally and I know for a fact it's not fake. However, why the keeping up appearances by these other people? Why do you need everyone else to see these intimate conversations between you and your spouse? There is something wrong with this. Feel free to send a text.... call. And if you're in the same room with them use your words. I would much rather have someone say they love me in person than on my facebook wall.

16. Inviting me to stupid events that are a million miles away.

Let me define stupid. I live in Michigan. Am I going to travel to Florida to go to a Thirty One party? No. So why the heck did you invite me?

17. inviting me to a million "in home" parties.

I have people constantly inviting me to to parties like Mary Kay, Thirty one, etc. First of all, if you didn't come to my party, forget you. Why should I go to yours? I had a party for my friend for Premier Designs and TWO people showed up. My neighbor and my Gramma. So if you didn't come to my party, or wouldn't have a party for me when I was trying to do beauti control, chances are I'm not going to your party. Not only that... I don't really have money to buy crap I don't need.

18. Poop posts.

I'm sorry... I don't care if your kid went poop. It's kinda gross actually.

This was mostly just for fun. :) But these things are pretty annoying.

Thursday, November 07, 2013

Good Men

Are there any good men left? Not just men, but good men?

This is why I ask:

Last night I was minding my own little business when a guy I went to HS with messaged me. I never really associated with him in HS, and don't know much about him really. He started asking me questions like "Would you have gone out with me if I had asked in HS," and stuff like that. I didn't want to be mean (because No, I wouldn't have), so I tried to be diplomatic about it. Then he asked me if I was single. I thought this was odd, because I knew for a fact he was married and had a baby, because I had spoken to his mother (not realizing who she was) last summer.

So it proceeded to get creepier.... he said if we were both single, that he'd take me out, because I was "looking good" and that he wished we were both single. Apparently I had no say in the matter. He would take me out if we were both single, whether I wanted to or not!

He asked me if I wanted to see a photo of him. Now this was on Facebook.. So i can see his profile pic. He looked pretty much the same as in high school only bigger. I said I can see your profile pic. He then said "I can send you other pics." Right away I know where this is going. Creepy guy on facebook wants to show me "other pics," which I am definitely not interested in seeing. I tell him I'm not interested in seeing any kind of pictures of a married man. He proceeds to pressure me. After he wouldn't stop I blocked him.

What is wrong with people these days? I understand that the passion and romance fades in a relationship. But what about trying to send dirty pictures to someone who isn't your wife is going to fix that? This creeper is just lucky I didn't instantly screenshot our conversation and send it to his wife.

I'm starting to lose hope. I'm starting to lose hope that I will ever find a man worth a damn (sorry for the language, but it gets the point across). What about me makes men think they can treat me this way? I see other people - my friends - not get treated this way. I think I carry myself rather confidently in the midst of whatever insecurities I do have. I don't feel like I act like a person who can be easily victimized because I don't take that kind of crap from people.

Are there any men who will just try to get to know you without trying to get into your pants first? I've had 3 attached men (2 married, one with a gf) attempt to be inappropriate with me or hit on me in the past week. JUST IN THE PAST WEEK. I've gone so far as to say "yes I have a boyfriend." They don't care. They still attempt to use me for whatever temporary need they need to have fulfilled at the moment.

Is it too much to ask to have someone who truly cares about me?  Who cares about my feelings, goals, thoughts, beliefs and struggles?

Yes, I have friends. One of my best, closest friends is a man. However, he gives me no insight to why this might be happening to me. Maybe I just need to be more selective about who I friend on FB. I already am..I usually do not add someone unless I actually know them or knew them at one point. Perhaps that's not enough.

This whole thing just makes me feel gross, and have little hope for any future I have with any man.

Oh, and this guy who did all this CLAIMED to be a Christian. Ha!!!

Tuesday, November 05, 2013


So I have had multiple people say to me that they think I have a good heart. They say something like this "You have a good heart. I just wish you would let more people see that about you."

Here's the problem with that:

I have many times allowed people "in." I've allowed people to see into my heart. You know what has happened? A lot of bad things. My heart has been broken and stomped on. I've been taken advantage of, stolen from, and mistreated in other ways. Disappointed... over & over again. Not just romantically either. This has happened to me with people I thought were my friends.

This is very difficult for me to deal with. It has made me really have problems with trusting people.

This is not uncommon. For a long time I shut myself off completely from meeting new people.  I have been better lately but it is something that I have to work on. I'm really, really trying. No matter what other people might think.